Dove recently commissioned an online survey where South African women were asked to describe their perceptions and pressures around beauty.
Interestingly, 45% of South African women surveyed admitted that they are their own greatest source of beauty pressure, whilst only 5% felt that their friends pressurise them about beauty.
It is amazing to see that we are the only ones holding ourselves back from feeling beautiful. I have always had a positive outlook on life and I never try and let things bother me too much so I feel like I am one of the luckier ones. Its sad that so many woman feel that they have flaws when everyone should be embracing their beauty!
“Most of us believe that our friends are beautiful; we don’t focus on their flaws, but rather embrace everything they have to offer, including their real beauty,” says Jacqui O’Bree, independent life coach.
Here are some of Jacqui’s top tips to boost self-esteem and change the way we think about ourselves:
• To feel more beautiful you need to change what you focus on. You need to focus on your beauty, not your flaws.
• The next step to becoming your own best friend is identifying your uniqueness. Often the person we consider the most ‘beautiful’ woman in the room is not necessarily the benchmark for traditional beauty. She doesn’t fit the mold so to speak, but there is something about her. Something that makes her stand out.
• Our inner critic goes into overdrive when we ask ourselves these questions, so silence her, and ask your best friend or partner, what they notice about you. Accept what they say without judgment and remind yourself of those qualities whenever you are having ‘one of those moments’.
• Now consider your inner beauty. What qualities and characteristics are you most proud of? Your inner beauty and strength is reflected to those around you. Get in touch with what makes you beautiful inside, and remind yourself of those qualities daily.
What makes you beautiful?